Tuesday, October 11, 2005

Help me , help you?

I was out running errants yesterday afternoon. Cruising and enjoying some music in my car along this fine boulevard, I managed to pass 3 traffic lights before the 4th light turned red on me. Naturally being a responsible and careful driver, I stopped at the light and there I was 3rd in line.

I saw that there was this homeless man probably in his early forties holding a half-torn-up cardboard that says "Aren't you glad it's me & not you? Please help!" With his cardboard placed in front of this body, he walked back and forth along the road hoping that some drivers would offer him something.

This is a very common scene here in the city where I live. It doesn't matter whether it's 100F degrees or 40F degree, you'll see them out there. So,
When do we help and when not to help? (Not that there's anything wrong with helping...)

11 Comments:

At Tuesday, October 11, 2005 7:34:00 AM, Blogger Furkids In Hong Kong said...

It really is sad to see people not well off and having to resort to beg.

I used to handout money to any 'beggar' I pass, but for the last few years stopped that practice and instead offered them food, water and even cigarrettes instead in the hope that I was helping those that really were in need.

I don't know if it's the best way, but I guess it's better than not doing anything, or blindly handing out money to any stretched hand.

Take care.

 
At Tuesday, October 11, 2005 8:18:00 AM, Blogger sÞ¡ηηєє said...

yeah same here... only will offer food/water. no more cash ...

u never know what he have done in the pat to deserve this. though we ain't in any position to judge neither.

 
At Tuesday, October 11, 2005 9:35:00 AM, Blogger Sam I Am said...

It breaks my hart to see this ...
that some people are well off then
others .For some reason I've had the opinion that you shouldn't
give money to them directly .it is better to donate money to the city
mission .I have hear insane things like that there are people who have become millionsires from begging ! or somewhat less is that they buy drugs or alcohol for the money that you give them .So what most people do is to say I', sorry .
or simply ignore them,
Sam I am

 
At Tuesday, October 11, 2005 10:55:00 AM, Blogger Winn said...

Help , when u feel like helping - just dont think too much of whether he's a cheater or not. That will makes us feel better - so long we're doing good with no doubts in us.

 
At Tuesday, October 11, 2005 11:19:00 AM, Blogger Singaportsguy said...

it's always human nature to extend a helping hand..

but how long could you help..one time, twice...and then you stop.

Most of them are not lazy...some are professionals that had lost meaning in life...

understanding and teaching them how to fish again would be the best thing to do...

but with our current society...i don't think so..

 
At Tuesday, October 11, 2005 3:28:00 PM, Blogger Kurakat said...

giving aid is but a temporary measure. if an entire nation have this 'handout' mentality, then we r truly goners.

i will still help whenever i can. but i will give paid mrt tickets (no money for beggars' taxi fare), food, drinks (no cigarettes or alcohol) and perhaps tissue paper.

the worst thing that all of us can do is to ignore them. cos indifference is a form of social murder (u exclude people and eliminate them from ur life)

 
At Tuesday, October 11, 2005 8:29:00 PM, Blogger kukukucinta said...

i was scared stiff when i was in hatyai & shenzhen and saw the number of beggars along the streets. once u donated to one, hundred of other kids will run to u and hog u until u donate them some $$.

since then i dun dare to donate when i am holidaying anymore....

it is fortunate we dun have such sights in sg, which means people in sg generally are living in good conditions...

 
At Wednesday, October 12, 2005 3:49:00 AM, Blogger Gab said...

Torn between rationality and emotions, it's hard to decide to hand out cash or just walk-away.

Such incidents happened to myself very often. Some talked you into parting your cash, with their pitiful looks and heart-wrenching tales while some managed to coax money from you to avoid a scene. When you refused, they spoke vulgarities. *Sigh*

There was once an old lady kept bowing repeatedly at me, I was so stunned. It drew a lot of stares. You could have guessed it.

 
At Wednesday, October 12, 2005 7:09:00 AM, Blogger humblewarrior said...

Hey everyone! Thanks for your precious comments. We all now know where we stand on this matter. Many times, it is really up to that individual.

 
At Wednesday, October 12, 2005 12:37:00 PM, Blogger Chinyi said...

I used to help beggars, but in this 2 years there're more people pretend that he is handicapped, just can't tell who is really need help?! But I like your words, it is really up to that individual.

What is 沙龍照?! In english "Glamour photo", in Taiwan we also call it "藝術照", but I have really no idea why it 沙龍照 called.

LKK is Taiwanish, means some kind of, one man is too old to keep up with some new fashion or modern stuff.

 
At Thursday, October 13, 2005 7:09:00 AM, Blogger humblewarrior said...

chinyi - Thanks for your explainations. I'm still not very sure about LKK =) .

 

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